Debbie Covino, PhDJul 10, 20211 minBad Thought: My employees don’t like me. A recent client, Yolanda, came to me because she wanted to improve her relationships with co-workers. A small business owner, Yolanda had...
Debbie Covino, PhDDec 19, 20202 minBad Thought: I can’t be with my loved ones this holiday season.It’s truly a bummer that we won’t be with family this year due to coronavirus. The change in our usual routine does however present an...
Debbie Covino, PhDAug 29, 20202 minBad Thought: Meditation is hard.Have you ever noticed that your mind is over-active when you’re having a conversation with another person? You’re so busy forming...
Debbie Covino, PhDDec 14, 20192 minBad Thought: I hate the idea of seeing my brother-in-law at the holidays.You may not realize that your thoughts are accompanied by images, and that changing those images can change your experience.
Debbie Covino, PhDApr 20, 20192 minBad Thought: My neighborhood is crummy.My friend’s grumblings are a classic example of the “cognitive distortion” called the “mental filter” by David Burns in Feeling Good.
Debbie Covino, PhDFeb 23, 20192 minBad Thought: I never know what to say. I can’t tell you how many of my clients suffer, they believe, from an inability to say the right thing in social/interpersonal situations.
Debbie Covino, PhDDec 22, 20182 minBad Thought: I’m not looking forward to the holidays because my brother is not very nurturing.For me, the solution to Julie’s melancholy around her brother was easy to see: let go of wishing Todd were different, and get back to...
Debbie Covino, PhDJun 24, 20181 minBad Thought: My co-worker saps my energy.Can we pick up good vibes from others that actually energize, and even heal us?
Debbie Covino, PhDFeb 18, 20182 minBad Thought: Why did I become a parent?I’ve never talked to a parent who found this role to be easier than expected. Without exception, people I know say parenting is...
Debbie Covino, PhDJan 6, 20182 minBad Thought: I wish I hadn’t had that terrible fight with my sister-in-law.A client I’ll call Joanne had an unpleasant spat with her sister-in-law, Irene, on Christmas Eve.
Debbie Covino, PhDNov 19, 20172 minBad Thought: How will I ever get past the pain of this breakup?Researcher Matthew Walker explains that the only time our brains produce no anxiety-triggering noradrenaline is when we are in REM sleep...
Debbie Covino, PhDSep 24, 20171 minBad Thought: I can’t stop thinking about the argument with my friend.A recent study discussed in Greater Good Magazine (link below) affirms what the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) has taught...
Debbie Covino, PhDSep 9, 20172 minBad Thought: I’m afraid to speak in front of colleagues....when faced with a personal fear or weakness, to think, My imperfections humanize me and connect me to others.
Debbie Covino, PhDAug 26, 20172 minBad Thought: I'm terrible at socializing. Those who study such things tell us that people remember very little about the specifics of what we say to them, and mostly remember...
Debbie Covino, PhDFeb 26, 20172 minBad Thought: I don't belong.This fitting-in vs. not fitting-in thing is a big part of our existential human experience. It became an old story, though--one I wanted...