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Dec 14, 2019
2 min

Bad Thought: I hate the idea of seeing my brother-in-law at the holidays.

You may not realize that your thoughts are accompanied by images, and that changing those images can change your experience.

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Apr 20, 2019
2 min

Bad Thought: My neighborhood is crummy.

My friend’s grumblings are a classic example of the “cognitive distortion” called the “mental filter” by David Burns in Feeling Good.

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Feb 23, 2019
2 min

Bad Thought: I never know what to say.

I can’t tell you how many of my clients suffer, they believe, from an inability to say the right thing in social/interpersonal situations.

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Dec 22, 2018
2 min

Bad Thought: I’m not looking forward to the holidays because my brother is not very nurturing.

For me, the solution to Julie’s melancholy around her brother was easy to see: let go of wishing Todd were different, and get back to...

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Feb 18, 2018
2 min

Bad Thought: Why did I become a parent?

I’ve never talked to a parent who found this role to be easier than expected. Without exception, people I know say parenting is...

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Jan 6, 2018
2 min

Bad Thought: I wish I hadn’t had that terrible fight with my sister-in-law.

A client I’ll call Joanne had an unpleasant spat with her sister-in-law, Irene, on Christmas Eve.

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Nov 19, 2017
2 min

Bad Thought: How will I ever get past the pain of this breakup?

Researcher Matthew Walker explains that the only time our brains produce no anxiety-triggering noradrenaline is when we are in REM sleep...

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Sep 24, 2017
1 min

Bad Thought: I can’t stop thinking about the argument with my friend.

A recent study discussed in Greater Good Magazine (link below) affirms what the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) has taught...

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Sep 9, 2017
2 min

Bad Thought: I’m afraid to speak in front of colleagues.

...when faced with a personal fear or weakness, to think, My imperfections humanize me and connect me to others.

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Aug 26, 2017
2 min

Bad Thought: I'm terrible at socializing.

Those who study such things tell us that people remember very little about the specifics of what we say to them, and mostly remember...

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Debbie Covino, PhD

Feb 26, 2017
2 min

Bad Thought: I don't belong.

This fitting-in vs. not fitting-in thing is a big part of our existential human experience. It became an old story, though--one I wanted...

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