There’s no doubt about the fact that trauma has a lasting effect on those who have experienced it. Anyone who’s experienced abuse, assault, a serious accident, life-threatening illness, or other terrible ordeal understands that life gets divided into before and after compartments.
Stubborn facts of the matter aside, I am often struck by the good that so many of my clients have made of a bad experience. A number are therapists, social workers, or physicians who now help others who have suffered. Some have culled the wisdom that has come from their pain, and used it to create vibrant lives. And still others advocate for the social changes that help to spare people from having to undergo the same sort of harm.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), the emphasizing of the good that has come out of an unfortunate situation is called a reframe. The more painful the trauma one has experienced, the more difficult it is to recast events in a positive light. And many times, it can take years in order for a person to be able to accomplish a reframe. So, don’t be hard on yourself if you’re stuck in an old hurt. But do realize that it can be possible to find benefit in dreadful events. You can allow yourself to think, I can turn this misfortune into something good.
You're reading the Bad Thoughts Blog, which maintains that feeling good is as simple as thinking a better thought. I'm Debbie Covino, hypnotherapist, coach, speaker, author, and creator of the All Day Hypnosis© series, available at www.hypnotic-wellbeing.com
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